“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.” – Bob Marley
I was watching a very renowned reality singing show few days ago and was totally amazed to see the kind of talent displayed. Children who were just five and six years old were firing up the stage with their performances. I could only sit in front of my idiot box and blink in disbelief at what I was witnessing.
Gone are the days when academics and merit were the only important aspects in a child’s life. In today’s era, there is a lot of emphasis on other activities as well like music, dance, sports, reading, writing, art, drama etc. Schools and colleges have taken this responsibility on themselves to hone a child’s entire personality by encouraging them to participate in activities pertaining to their interest. The options are varied and the opportunities are abundant.
There is a very famous and an inspiring Hindi movie called “Taare Zameen Par” with the tagline “Every Child is Special.” Every child indeed has been blessed with some or the other talent and identifying them solely lies in the hands of the parents. At a very tender age itself children start displaying an affinity towards certain interests. For example – if your child always keeps drawing, cannot put down that box of crayons and your walls are a living proof to that, then you could surely think of enrolling him into a drawing class. Honing their creative abilities can be the best gift that you could give your child as they will thank you for the rest of their lives.
Music is an integral part of our life. Especially in India, music is placed at the highest pedestal of worship. A child is exposed to music in the mother’s womb itself – her prayers, her chants, her lullabies are all a form of music. Nurturing this talent later on becomes a very important aspect for the child to excel in it. I would like to state my own example here. My mother is a very beautiful singer and in turn I too am blessed with this talent. At an early age of 3, my parents realized my inclination towards music and enrolled me for music classes and encouraged me to participate in inter school and inter college competitions sometimes, even by going that extra mile to come with me at the various competition venues. This kind of an out an out encouragement surely develops the child’s confidence to step out of their comfort zone and put across his talent. Riaan too is showing a keen interest in music. He hums songs quite melodiously and at his age he remembers lyrics of songs which I never even expected him to do.
Dealing with Failure
This is a very integral part of the child’s training. Explaining to them that participation is much more important than winning should always be the priority.
- I have observed a lot of times that the parents themselves get emotional and start giving up. This is not going to help your child. Yes, every parent wants to see their child as a winner but, this is the most important time when we should further motivate the child and make them understand that though winning is important, it is not the end. Participation also takes a lot of courage.
- If it is possible you could request the jury to elaborate on the areas of improvement and this should be done in front of the child so that he exactly knows his shortcomings.
- Unwanted pressure and extremely high standards should not be set for the child. The child should be given enough space and time to improvise.
Striking a Balance
Yes, all said and done academics will always remain the most important aspect of our life but, we also need to create a healthy balance between studies and development of the child’s musical abilities.
- Enrolling the child in a music class itself becomes the first step in setting up a routine as by doing this, the child will be practicing singing at least 3-4 times a week.
- Setting aside a few hours every week where the parents also sit with the child is one of the best ways to nurture his talent and it also becomes a fun family activity.
It is rightly said that music has no boundaries so, enjoy this beautiful musical journey with your child for a lifetime.