It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers are celebrating Women’s Day with a twist. I thank Sweta who blogs at https://cloudandsunshine.com for introducing me. She is a chirpy mommy who writes about parenting and general life tips.
I would also take the opportunity to introduce Gayatri who blogs at https://motherlymess.site . She is a mommy too who has taken to the power of words and is exploring the writer in her.
The prompt that I am writing on is Beauty.
What is Beauty? Is it a physical state, or a mental state? Not sure? Let me tell you what I have learnt about beauty in all these years of my existence.
From the time a child is born; be it a girl or a boy, that tiny, innocent baby is judged on its features, looks, resemblance to the parents etc. I never felt comfortable with such feeble talks even as a kid. Our society, and I am not just talking about India. All over the world, there is a discrimination on the basis of a person’s skin color and physical attributes. We have been conditioned to dislike people who are dark, people who are physically challenged and people whose physical features are not as per the accepted societal norms. The inner self of the person is conveniently ignored.
I am a beautiful lady. Even when I was young, I was beautiful. I just did not know how to carry myself. I hailed from a traditional South Indian family and my mother was not a fashionista in any way. So, I wasn’t dressed up in ultra modern clothes. I naturally followed that fashion style and I think I survived comfortably for almost 10 to 11 years of my life 😉. Then, teenage happened and that is when I realized that I was lagging behind. We had girls in school with their uniform riding way above their knees and tights skirts and the guys were busy eyeing them. Whereas, I was always in an over sized uniform and my hair was neatly oiled and plaited. Plus, I had these proper soda glasses 😁.
I was not bothered about my looks but, somewhere deep down i knew that I was the laughing stock. So, to match the prescribed norms of beauty, I changed. I had a total makeover of my looks. I got complimented a lot and people started noticing me too. But, does it really matter? Did anyone try to know the real me? Apart from a few friends, no one knew what I was as a person.
I’m sure there are a lot of men and women who have felt inadequate because of their external appearances at least once in their lifetime. My tip to all of you out there is to ignore such prejudiced views and stay strong and confident. I totally understand that is difficult but, it is the best bet for you else your self esteem will take a major hit (just like mine did after a point). And trust me, coming out of that situation is an extremely difficult task. I took 5 years to rebuild my image.
If you have ever felt or have been made to feel less worthy, I have a small exercise for you. There is a beautiful book called ‘You can Heal your Life’ by Louise Hay. You must get a hand on this one. It is extremely positive and motivating. So, the exercise here is: Stand in front of the mirror everyday, look into your eyes (this is a really tough task) and say these words aloud “I Love You”. Do this each and everyday til you start believing what you say. Surprised? It is one of the simplest things to do yet, it turns out to be one of the most difficult tasks. Again, it is because we have never been taught to love and accept our self. But, do give it a shot and let me know how it worked for you 😊.
To sum it up, beauty is just a notion. The real beauty is your inner self. Just as Christina Aguilera has very candidly expressed it through her song ‘Beautiful’. Signing off here with a few lines which I love from this song:
I am beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can’t bring me down
So don’t you bring me down today.
‘This post is a part of #UnapologeticGirlz Blogathon hosted by @mylittlemuffin_mom @mommyvoyage and @themomsagas, sponsored by @kaurageousyou.